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Dear Blog,
I am so stupid.
Having been in China for 3 weeks already, and having only started attending University over here for 3 lessons, I have already crossed the line and continue to do so, inhibiting the ability for me to make any friends.
I'm currently blogging at the National Library of Beijing and this post is going to be about what I've learnt about Asian students.
I've noticed that Asian students are much more conservative, ESPECIALLY when it comes to dealing with other students of the opposite gender, they are super shy and treat every move between the opposite gender with extra precaution (which is seriously not a good thing in my case). Us, who have grown up in a Western culture are more openly friendly and tend to break the 'physical contact barrier' very early in our friendship with people of the opposite gender (via hugs, head patting, friendly arm around shoulder etc). These kids, take offence to head-patting, shy away from holding wrists (not hands) during stretching exercises, take interactions between people of the opposite genders WAY too seriously and THEY JUST ALL NEED TO CALM DOWN.
-breeeeathe-
I am not used to the students and their stringent behaviour over here. I am quite myself around these students, open and friendly. My openness towards them might be seen as a gesture of flirtiness from their perspective, which I assure you, is not my intention.
I'm on the verge of losing a guy friend I made literally 24 hours ago at taekwondo. He may have mistaken my confidence around him/openeness to express my thoughts as a signal of wanting to make babies with him or something worse.
I can't believe how much this is affecting my mood. I don't know how to conduct myself around these people, I don't know where to draw the line.
I may have lost a friend this time, as hard as it is may be for me to believe right now, but for everything I lose, I gain something else, I've gained experience. Although I'm not too sure I will be able to meet such a special friend again, it's extremely saddening. Perhaps I should try explaining to him and try clear up any misunderstandings, but that's in a week's time (which is too much time for something as important as this, and things like this can't just suffice with a text or a chat on QQ, it must be deal with FACE-TO-FACE) that's if I can find the courage to attend our next taekwondo class, given the fact that I probably did scare my new friend off.
Why is dealing with people so awkward :( I feel like a little green alien over here in China.
I am so stupid.
Having been in China for 3 weeks already, and having only started attending University over here for 3 lessons, I have already crossed the line and continue to do so, inhibiting the ability for me to make any friends.
I'm currently blogging at the National Library of Beijing and this post is going to be about what I've learnt about Asian students.
I've noticed that Asian students are much more conservative, ESPECIALLY when it comes to dealing with other students of the opposite gender, they are super shy and treat every move between the opposite gender with extra precaution (which is seriously not a good thing in my case). Us, who have grown up in a Western culture are more openly friendly and tend to break the 'physical contact barrier' very early in our friendship with people of the opposite gender (via hugs, head patting, friendly arm around shoulder etc). These kids, take offence to head-patting, shy away from holding wrists (not hands) during stretching exercises, take interactions between people of the opposite genders WAY too seriously and THEY JUST ALL NEED TO CALM DOWN.
-breeeeathe-
I am not used to the students and their stringent behaviour over here. I am quite myself around these students, open and friendly. My openness towards them might be seen as a gesture of flirtiness from their perspective, which I assure you, is not my intention.
I'm on the verge of losing a guy friend I made literally 24 hours ago at taekwondo. He may have mistaken my confidence around him/openeness to express my thoughts as a signal of wanting to make babies with him or something worse.
I can't believe how much this is affecting my mood. I don't know how to conduct myself around these people, I don't know where to draw the line.
I may have lost a friend this time, as hard as it is may be for me to believe right now, but for everything I lose, I gain something else, I've gained experience. Although I'm not too sure I will be able to meet such a special friend again, it's extremely saddening. Perhaps I should try explaining to him and try clear up any misunderstandings, but that's in a week's time (which is too much time for something as important as this, and things like this can't just suffice with a text or a chat on QQ, it must be deal with FACE-TO-FACE) that's if I can find the courage to attend our next taekwondo class, given the fact that I probably did scare my new friend off.
Why is dealing with people so awkward :( I feel like a little green alien over here in China.